I agree with everything that has been said already, but would add that a change of approach, if appropriate, may be helpful.
By looking for ways to get things moving in ways that either the client doesn't know about or doesn't like, you aren't going do much good because the client will just end up not trusting you and her misplaced beliefs will be confirmed.
With lack of insight, it's totally pointless trying to persuade the client that she is going about it the wrong way or that she won't do any good. In these situations, I sit down with the client and find out all of thier concerns about all the issues. I then relate those concerns to the situation in hand and try to show how those concerns can be overcome. This aids in building understanding for the client and assists in establishing rapport between client and adviser. You are then in a much better position to have your way of doing things accepted by the client. This has to be an ongoing process, so as new concerns emerge you have deal with them. I also think it's extremely important to keep the client fully informed with what you are doing and what happens next, and also to empower the client.
Of course, this deals with the relationship between client and adviser and I don't know how you manage things, so this info might be useless. It's also possible, as is sometimes the case, that no amount of interview skills, empathy, trust, empowerment, etc., etc. will make any difference at all. In this case, I echo previous contributions - without an appointee, the client is ultimately responsible.
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